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Isabel Cowles Murphy's avatar

Isn't it cool that most paths to connection are a little uncomfortable? You guys are my role models, truly.

Abigail A Mlinar Burns's avatar

🙈I cover my eyes to that sweet compliment but not at the thorny paths of growth and connection! 😘😘😘😘😘Thank you ❤️

Amy Kunrojpanya's avatar

As ever, brilliant, funny, raw and oh so relatable — thanks Abby ❤️

Abigail A Mlinar Burns's avatar

Amy, that's an incredibly sweet comment. Thank you so so so much ❤️

Jellos's avatar

this is my first impression of you and I love it! I love the way it was written and how honest and blunt it was <3

Abigail A Mlinar Burns's avatar

🥲🥲🥲 thank you thank you. I’m glad this made it’s way to you.

V.Thomas's avatar

Yeah I echo the comments. It sounds like you have an amazing sex life because you - communicate! Soooo important as I seem to say everywhere lately. A great read as I love hearing about people's sex life - but not for titillation - although this can happen. I just find it so interesting. I was talking with friend and this is what we want - to talk explicitly about sex without it being perverted. Anyway, thx. VT x

Abigail A Mlinar Burns's avatar

V, you’re incredibly kind to reflect on all this so deeply. I feel so lucky to have my love and sex life that I do. And you’re right, it doesn’t come without that communication, which isn’t always without effort. I’m grateful for your readership! Xox!

Douglas S. Pierce's avatar

What a great post! So important to be able to say ‘no’ in a relationship and not to have it be a huge fight every time!

Abigail A Mlinar Burns's avatar

Yes! Thank you for reading and saying this. The comfort with honesty in my relationship is so important to me ❤️

Marina Mofford's avatar

Love the co sleeping perspective! I’ll have to share this with my husband, seeing as we currently cosleep and he often wishes we went the more traditional US route.

Abigail A Mlinar Burns's avatar

I’m curious what he’ll think! I still don’t think my Joe would admit verbally that he’s ‘glad’ we did it, but I can tell he is! Either way, I’m glad he never hassled me about it.

Publius Poplicola's avatar

Getting a newborn to toddlerhood and on his/her feet is a challenge. But it’s rewarding. I can’t imagine doing it in nyc.

Abigail A Mlinar Burns's avatar

Best of life so far! City rearing has its pros - the opportunities for them evading adult supervision is limited in our tiny apartment and milk is never far, even though it’s $15 a gallon 🤪

Undistorted, Radical Clarity's avatar

There’s a lot of clarity here about how consent, desire, and self-knowledge actually function inside a long relationship. Thanks for the post!

Abigail A Mlinar Burns's avatar

Thank you for seeing that! I hoped it’d come across that way ❤️ Appreciate you reading!!!

imarkanx || istvan markan 🍁's avatar

Sounds healthy to me. Really every relationship—not just intimate relationships—needs this clarity.

And with co-sleeping, or any other parenting choice, it’s all about consistency. Humans, not just children, simply need routine of some kind. We want a constant reliable frame of reference. That doesn't mean change won’t happen, because it’s inevitable.

Thank you for writing this. It’s the type of real human relationship details that so many need to read. Love is an emotion. Respect is what makes it work.

Abigail A Mlinar Burns's avatar

❤️❤️❤️❤️ It's my pleasure. Thank you for writing such a thoughtful response. All relationships would indeed benefit from such honesty and respect!

WiseWomanWickedTongue's avatar

You are a very reasonable, unreasonable. Your content is quite cheeky and fun. I love it.

Abigail A Mlinar Burns's avatar

WWWT, thank youuuu. I love this compliment 🥹😇