I really enjoyed this. What I appreciated most was its refusal to treat change as hypocrisy. There’s a quiet wisdom in the idea that loving one season of your life doesn’t obligate you to live there forever.
I also loved the distinction between relationship status and contentment. The essay suggests that the real work isn’t defending singleness or marriage, but learning to recognise what fits the person you’ve become.
And the line that stayed with me was, “Mothers can be whores, too.” It neatly dismantles the false choices we so often inherit, reminding us that people are usually larger and more contradictory than the roles they’re given.
I love this so much! You definitely don’t need to apologize for loving any aspect of your life! It isn’t incompatible to love being single, and then to love being in a relationship with someone who loves you and who you love dearly as well!
And if you were to later come out as loving the wild swinging lifestyle (I’m not saying that you would or should, mind you) and that you and Joe have gone wildly into the world of poly — well I would cheer for you both, if it was something that was wanted by all concerned! And I would be an avid reader of those adventures too!
In my five and a half decades plus on this planet, I have learned to appreciate people for where they are and not to project my desires or fantasies onto anyone else. I’ve learned to appreciate the individual journeys that we are all on in this life. In a life well-lived, we will all grow and change, and figure out what works best for us in each season of our lives. Enjoy the journey, and the orgasms — however they come for you!
I really enjoyed this. What I appreciated most was its refusal to treat change as hypocrisy. There’s a quiet wisdom in the idea that loving one season of your life doesn’t obligate you to live there forever.
I also loved the distinction between relationship status and contentment. The essay suggests that the real work isn’t defending singleness or marriage, but learning to recognise what fits the person you’ve become.
And the line that stayed with me was, “Mothers can be whores, too.” It neatly dismantles the false choices we so often inherit, reminding us that people are usually larger and more contradictory than the roles they’re given.
Such great writing - love this.
I love this so much! You definitely don’t need to apologize for loving any aspect of your life! It isn’t incompatible to love being single, and then to love being in a relationship with someone who loves you and who you love dearly as well!
And if you were to later come out as loving the wild swinging lifestyle (I’m not saying that you would or should, mind you) and that you and Joe have gone wildly into the world of poly — well I would cheer for you both, if it was something that was wanted by all concerned! And I would be an avid reader of those adventures too!
In my five and a half decades plus on this planet, I have learned to appreciate people for where they are and not to project my desires or fantasies onto anyone else. I’ve learned to appreciate the individual journeys that we are all on in this life. In a life well-lived, we will all grow and change, and figure out what works best for us in each season of our lives. Enjoy the journey, and the orgasms — however they come for you!