Abigail, the Overground platform scene gives the essay its center because it catches change before the narrator has language dignified enough to admit it. The piece keeps returning to that pressure: people often experience another person’s evolution as betrayal when the real discomfort is that a borrowed certainty has stopped doing their inner work for them. Your strongest move is refusing to make singleness, marriage, motherhood, sluttiness, or partnership carry the burden of being a final ideology. Grateful for the wit, honesty, and self-interrogation you bring to the unfinished work of becoming someone who can change without apologizing for having once meant what she said.
I love this so much! You definitely don’t need to apologize for loving any aspect of your life! It isn’t incompatible to love being single, and then to love being in a relationship with someone who loves you and who you love dearly as well!
And if you were to later come out as loving the wild swinging lifestyle (I’m not saying that you would or should, mind you) and that you and Joe have gone wildly into the world of poly — well I would cheer for you both, if it was something that was wanted by all concerned! And I would be an avid reader of those adventures too!
In my five and a half decades plus on this planet, I have learned to appreciate people for where they are and not to project my desires or fantasies onto anyone else. I’ve learned to appreciate the individual journeys that we are all on in this life. In a life well-lived, we will all grow and change, and figure out what works best for us in each season of our lives. Enjoy the journey, and the orgasms — however they come for you!
Douglas, this has made me smile with my whole being. We see the world so compatibly 🥰 I wouldn’t be shocked if these tales were in our future 😘 Thank you for being along on this ride with us ❤️
Such great writing - love this.
🥰 thank you so much, Jonah
Abigail, the Overground platform scene gives the essay its center because it catches change before the narrator has language dignified enough to admit it. The piece keeps returning to that pressure: people often experience another person’s evolution as betrayal when the real discomfort is that a borrowed certainty has stopped doing their inner work for them. Your strongest move is refusing to make singleness, marriage, motherhood, sluttiness, or partnership carry the burden of being a final ideology. Grateful for the wit, honesty, and self-interrogation you bring to the unfinished work of becoming someone who can change without apologizing for having once meant what she said.
Thanks Rev ❤️ appreciate the read and reflection 🙏
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I love this so much! You definitely don’t need to apologize for loving any aspect of your life! It isn’t incompatible to love being single, and then to love being in a relationship with someone who loves you and who you love dearly as well!
And if you were to later come out as loving the wild swinging lifestyle (I’m not saying that you would or should, mind you) and that you and Joe have gone wildly into the world of poly — well I would cheer for you both, if it was something that was wanted by all concerned! And I would be an avid reader of those adventures too!
In my five and a half decades plus on this planet, I have learned to appreciate people for where they are and not to project my desires or fantasies onto anyone else. I’ve learned to appreciate the individual journeys that we are all on in this life. In a life well-lived, we will all grow and change, and figure out what works best for us in each season of our lives. Enjoy the journey, and the orgasms — however they come for you!
Douglas, this has made me smile with my whole being. We see the world so compatibly 🥰 I wouldn’t be shocked if these tales were in our future 😘 Thank you for being along on this ride with us ❤️
I’m so glad! I would love to read about such adventures should they come…I’m sure that they would be spectacular!
Thank you, LRT! I appreciate your read ❤️