This is more important than sex toys
You can’t buy your way to better sex - Praxxxis #7
Buying something to fix a problem is a coping mechanism I’m not unfamiliar with. The whole parenting industrial complex runs off of it. Call it my Midwestern work ethic or my learned, lower-middle-class thriftiness, but I actively fight this impulse.
I know I could’ve saved myself a lot of discomfort if I’d just bought an umbrella attachment for our stroller instead of jimmying a couple into the crevices. But when it comes to my sex life, my self-dependence has served me well.
Nobody can buy their way to better sex. A vibrator can help you come, of course, and my husband and my lingerie habit is not cheap, but no external tool (neither our new silicone dildo nor any garter belt) has improved my pleasure so much as internal work.
It’s not sexy. But (stay with me!) it will be sexy.
To feel things I’d never felt, these are the things I prioritize(d)1:
