Last Thursday, I shared a free essay on how our news cycle might not be helping your erotic levels, and that is not only ok; listening to that is also how we build a new world that prioritizes consent, in lieu of my usual paid Praxxxis post. Many of you said it was helpful. Read it here if you missed it.
Since then, I’ve masturbated and shagged probably six times. It felt so fucking necessary. Almost as it did mid-January during this ‘Altar’ed States’ shag.
So today, instead of an essay, I have a Praxxxis guide to help you do the same. If you need a comp subscription to read it, let me know xoxo
We all know (right?) that women’s orgasms are far easier to reach, and much more satisfying, when they’re feeling safe. It’s physiology.
But humans don’t even need to read the news to inflame worries. Our sweet little life-sustaining brains can trigger these orgasm-depriving stressors all on their own. It’s psychology.
Yet, if we waited for prime comfort to orgasm, we’d come more infrequently and have a lot less fun wading through the weeds of life.
I’m in the is-my-hair-falling-out-from-chronic-stress-or-postpartum-hormones stage of life, yet I’m coming often enough to keep me close to my partner and mostly sane.
Here’s how I help myself come, even when my needs-hierarchy needs some scaffolding, and how my partner supports that process:
